Language.
Language creates the quality of your life.
Language is how you create your life.
Language is the foundation of your thinking and speaking.
Language is how you describe what you see.
Watch for this language distinction, it is how we teach about who we are.
When you speak, do you speak in first person, or second person, or third person?
First person is when you speak with words such as "I," "me," "mine," "my." First person is reflective of the speaker.
For example. "I am working on this article right now" is written in first person.
Second person is when you speak with words such as "you." Second person is who the speaker is speaking to.
For example. "You know that feeling you get when you are stuck in traffic and simply don't want to be there?"
Third person is when you speak with words such as "he," "she," "it," "they." Third person is someone other than the speaker/who is being spoken to.
For example. "He is known as the world's greatest teacher."
Now, which way of speaking do you think indicates ownership over someone's life?
Listen to the person who tells stories, do they tell the story in first person or second person, if it's about their own personal experience?
Listen to how the person talks, is the majority of their language rooted in "I" or is it rooted in "you"?
When you become more aware of this, you will see how often language is misused.
Language is misused when someone is speaking in the second person when they're sharing a personal story.
I see this all the time from celebrities, experts, and influencers.
What happens when someone speaks about personal experience in second person is they project.
They project their reality onto you.
When you are aware of this, you don't need to accept the projection that is cast upon you.
Also, when you are aware of this in how you speak, you can choose to teach us about who you truly are.
Are you someone who leads your life or are you led by life?
When you see this, you are then empowered to decide who you want to work with, befriend, invest in a relationship with, partner with.
I remember a call I had a while back with a CEO in Europe working on her company.
She had a challenge with her team not being inspired.
She knew she wasn't paying her team as well as she would have liked and she wanted them invested in the company.
Yet, she rarely spoke in first person.
She rarely even shared her profound story of why she's doing what she's doing.
She didn't allow her team to get inspired, she was too busy speaking in second person.
When she changed her language, she shared with me that it made her feel more vulnerable.
She was putting herself out there by taking ownership of her world.
This is a common side effect.
I wonder, what do you often speak in, first or second person?
If second, I invite you to speak in first person for the next 30 days and let me know how it goes.
How does your life change?
How do you feel?
What will this way of speaking allow you to become?
