There was a time where I did not understand this.
I did not understand how I was teaching others about myself.
Instead, I was unaware and focused on me.
My focus was internal.
I was focused on what I wanted.
I was focused on the way I did things.
Sharing status updates I thought were funny.
Sharing photos of fun activities and outings.
Sharing updates about my business and projects and involvements.
If I appeared scattered, it’s because I was. I lacked alignment.
The focus was on me.
Me me me.
My my my.
Sure, I was relatively mindful of others.
Eventually, I realized such a focus on myself didn’t serve me.
I learned about the importance of how I teach others about who I am.
I learned about the importance of people, and resources, and the limits to what I can create myself.
When I learned this, I changed my being.
My default response to life changed from thinking and resisting to responding in a way that I mindfully believed in.
I honor my younger self and I accept who I was being.
Self-awareness is what changed.
How we teach others
None of these are good or bad. I share them as a reminder to strengthen self-awareness.
To strengthen power.
I believe self-awareness is powerful.
I am not sharing these questions to provoke fear or to create a sense of “you need to be doing this.” This is not about right or wrong, this is about who you want to be.
This is not about being deceptive, or lying, or appearing as someone else. It is about mindfully constructing our being.
Well, who do you want to be?
This is how we teach others about who we are being.
We teach others that we make our meetings on time or that we don’t.
We teach others that we are reliable and consistent or that we’re unreliable and inconsistent.
We teach others that we value the power behind our words, or that we loosely speak and don’t value our word.
We teach others that we’re powerful when we speak over things that we have power over, or that we’re powerless when we speak over things that we don’t have power over.
We teach others that we value our work and what we do, or that we give it away for free without regard to value.
We teach others that it is ok to cross our boundaries and disrespect us, or we teach others that we have boundaries and we will not allow ourselves to be disrespected.
We teach others that we value our time or that we don’t value our time.
We teach others that we respond to e-mail and can remember our appointments or we teach others that we are unable to respond to e-mail and remember our appointments.
We teach others that we are able to create powerful agreements with them or that we live a life of expectation.
We teach others that we are takers or that we are givers.
We teach others that we live in the past with our certainty about life or we teach others that we live in a future of possibility.
We teach others that we know how to listen and meet them where they’re at, or we teach others that we’re unaware of how to listen and we’re only interested in ourselves.
We teach others how we can co-exist, or how we overpower and dominate, or how we submit and surrender.
We teach others that we value and respect our being, or that we're stupid and worthless.
We teach others we are decisive and trust ourselves, or we teach others that we're indecisive and don't trust ourselves.
We teach others what we value by whether or not we affirm a behavior or an activity.
We teach others we’re proactive and take initiative, or that we’re reactive and wait to respond.
We teach others that we are grounded and focused or that we are scattered and unfocused.
We teach others that we can be funny all the time, or we teach others that we are capable of honest conversation.
We teach others what we value and what we believe.
We create what we teach.
We can teach about ourselves when we are aware and when we are unaware.
When we are powerful
When we are powerful, we understand who we are being.
We understand that the way we are being can connect us to similar beings.
We understand the type of beings we want around us.
When we are powerful, we understand that everything we do is not reflective of our external environment, it is reflect of our internal environment.
When we are powerful, we know what we are teaching others.
We see how to align the person we want to be with how we are perceived.
We create integrity in our being with our habits, beliefs, and values.
Strength comes from alignment.
Alignment in our internal narrative with our external reality.
This is how we teach others about ourselves.
When we are aligned, we create power.
Why? What is it all for?
Because one day, a story will be told.
(Thanks for the video, Michele)
