Who You Can Become

Category: Insight

Are you who you want to be?

Do you move as you want to move?

Do you feel as you want to feel?

Do you speak the way you want to speak?

If yes, this article may not be for you.

If there is a gap between who you are and who you intend to become, then I invite you.

Imagine with me.

Imagine you have become exactly who you desire to become.

Imagine the way you act, feel, think, and see, is aligned with who you are.

Maybe you become at peace when the world around you appears chaotic and stressful.

Maybe you speak in a way that commands respect and causes others to listen.

Maybe your time is spent in the areas that cause you to lose track of time.

Maybe the team around you becomes inspired by who you are and your vision. This causes them to follow you because of the future you choose to see.

Maybe you finish each day with a peaceful exhaution. Not because you gave the day everything, but because you gave the day enough. And you knew that what you gave the day came from the parts of you that are life-giving.

Imagine that you had it all, and more.

Everything you see, hear, and feel, is a product of your creation.

You feel powerful in who you are.

You are doing your art in the world, running your company in the way that is true for you.

You are aligned with the future you see.

I've done this exercise. 

I've learned how to live into this vision I once imagined. 

If you're looking for a quick fix, I can tell you – I don't have it. 

But what I can tell you is what I know to be true.

What I learned was that everything I used to have – all of who I was, the happiness I had, the success I had, the feelings I felt... all of it was the result of what I knew how to give myself.

To live into who I was becoming, I had to learn how to disrupt my patterns.

I had to learn how to see my freedom between stimulus and response.

I had to learn to pause and respond differently.

To respond in a way that was a product of my creation, not outdated habits that no longer served me.

Much of this came from learning how to slow down.

Unpack who I was.

And then speed back up in a way that was truer to who I was wanting to become. 

To your vision of who you imagined above, I invite you to create the space to examine.

Perhaps what you intend to become exists in the space outside of what you know how to give to yourself.

... otherwise you wouldn't have this gap.

This dissonance between who you are and who you want to be can exist because of one of the following factors:

1. Your habits.

2. Your language habits.

3. Your biology. 

To become who you imagine, you must examine these areas.

To the cynic who challenges this idea, I know too many of you. The thinking goes like this...

"When I have a million dollars, then I will be who I imagine."

But what if that was not true?

What if instead of having a million bucks in the bank, you felt like a million bucks?

How would that serve who you are?

How would that serve what you create?

I invite you to challenge yourself. 

Play games with who you know how to be.

Change your values.

Challenge your thinking.

Challenge the way you see.

Challenge the language habits you use.

Not everyone is willing to disrupt themselves. 

It takes courage to leave what is safe and comfortable and proven.

But I wonder, what would happen if you did?

By Matthew Gallizzi. Consultant. Thinking Partner. Strategic Advisor. He believes our language creates our world. He equips business leaders as they live into their future vision.

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